Marriage & The Tool Box

Marriage isn’t easy, especially in today's world. I’m on the second time around with the same husband. Yes, I know, what was I thinking? To be honest, I was thinking of our grown children, weddings and grandchildren. I realized, most of the reasons our first marriage ended weren’t there anymore and growing old alone wasn’t a pleasant thought. So when my ex-husband asked me to re-marry him, it only made sense to say yes.

We didn’t tell anyone what we were doing, not even our children. We agreed “no outside influences” Our original wedding date was coming up around the time Mr. Charming posed the question. We both thought it would be fitting to amend the error of our ways and re-marry on our original wedding date. 

Our first wedding was near the water, had all the trimmings and was performed by a justice of the peace. We both thought a true church ceremony was important this time. We wanted our nuptials to be said with a minister and the marriage truly blessed by God.

We took a ferry to Block Island, made the arrangements and were blissfully re-married, for about 5 months. At which point Mr. Charming reverted to some of his old ways. The difference this time was me. I refuse to let the enemy get the best of me.

We live in a world where the enemy wants to devour every good thing there is, be it our marriage, family, children, or our spirit. Oh yes, our spirit can feel crushed sometimes, but God is always waiting to restore us.

Sometimes it’s hard to break the negative thinking the enemy entertains us with. Especially when it comes to the people we love the most. 

I have developed a toolbox for those times. It’s a God-inspired toolbox. It’s equipped with all the tools needed to change the channel in my mind and build the opening that allows God’s light to shine through my pain. 

I’ll share a few of my favorite’s:

1.) Pray hard and often

2.) Turn on Christian based music or watch Christian based programming on your TV, phone or internet

3.) Randomly open the Bible and read the first page you come to

4.) Join a Bible study 

5.) Get involved in helping others 

6.) Stay connected to Christian friends

7.) Journal 

8.) Read a good book

9.) Go outside and listen to God in nature

Most importantly…Fight back with LOVE 

I promised God to love this man for better or worse. I didn’t do it well the first time. But God brought us back together and offered us a second chance. I said my vows with a loving conviction and refuse to give up when it gets tough.

My most precious weapon in this battle this time around is my faith and I am fully armored.  

“I can do all things through him who strengthens me”. 

Philippians 4:13 

That includes loving even when it’s difficult to love. 


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Inspiring Souls